Earlier this week former NFL quarterback Tim Tebow and his now-former girlfriend, Olivia Culpo, made the national headlines. It seems that the former Miss Universe dumped Tebow due to his plan to wait until marriage to have sex with her or anyone else.
Unfortunately, we are moving toward a culture where if a person exerts any sort of sexual restraint it is seen as an aberration. We are urged to give in to the passion of the moment. We are told that as long as the two are clean and practice safe sex, there is no harm in it. After all, we should eat, drink, and be merry, for tomorrow we die!
Although slut-shaming, as it is called, certainly still exists and is a terrible way to deal with this issue, it feels like sexual exploration is becoming more and more the norm, especially for men. Some people think that women ought to remain pure, but a man should act like a stud and have sex with as many women as possible. I’m sure that there are quite a few people who believe that if a 28-year-old guy, especially a professional athlete like Tebow, hasn’t had sex by that age, clearly there must be something wrong with him. I’m pleased to say that we are moving in a direction of greater liberty, but it is not in one where conservative lifestyle choices are either respected or desired.
Nevertheless, there are some of us, like Tim Tebow, who have decided to wait. I suppose we do so for a variety of reasons; the two that most readily come to mind are religious and/or moral convictions and the strong bond between two people that could develop from such an experience and the desire to share it only with the right individual.
If a person decides to wait, that doesn’t necessarily mean that he or she doesn’t face the same inclinations. Yes, for those who decide to wait the temptations are pretty much the same as anyone else experiences. And, yes, sometimes it can be tough.
Nevertheless, although some people may consider it pointless or foolish, for those of us who are waiting for “the one”, there is this desire to tell him or her that I’ve waited all this time for you and you alone. And, although it is less and less common and may not be all that realistic anymore, many of us hope that she will tell us that she waited for us too.